I remembered reading my daughter's English essay when she was in the 4th grade and I laughed how a 9-yr old child communicated about her feelings with the rest of the world. Thirteen years later and on her 2nd quarter at Fresno City College, she handed me her first reading assignment to proofread and to be truthful...I was quite impressed by its quality content. Of course, you might say..well..she's older now..duh! Yes I know that..ok!! But I was really amazed how her writing style have changed throughout the years showing evidence of her maturity level of life that I wanted to show-off to my fellow readers how much my little girl have grown not just by the normal wages of time, but by her understanding of the obligations that is required by a person to become a responsible parent, so here is my daughter's, Rosa T's story regarding child-development titled-Like Father Like Son, Like Mother Like Daughter.
How can parents provide enough discipline to their children, so that they can function properly in public as well as at home? Every parent want their child to be happy, respectful and successful in return to be respected by others. Nobody wants to raise a spoiled brat. The parents play a major role in how their children manufacture themselves and the main responsibility as a parent is to teach their offsprings the appropriate attitude in life and avoid any misguided behavior that are either expected or shunned by today's society. Children, who do not grow up with the understanding of self-respect, later turn to adolescents, who do not respect themselves and more than likely have the tendency to consume alcohol, experiment with drugs and have sexual relations before adulthood. Their lack of self respect places them with a mind frame that they simply do not care for themselves or for anyone else for that matter where harmful judgements are frequently made or make satisfying choices that are only to their best self-interest.
The benefit of teaching shows the values of self respect early in childhood that reaps their lives with much happiness, become more successful, have healthier relationships, become unselfish, considerate, generous and caring with respect and trust for their parents and other influential adults with honorable but reasonable boundaries that foster their positive development contrary to the assertion of their culture. Folk phrases like "The apple does not fall far from the tree." "Like Father like son." "She lives up to the family name," which are either complimentary or not, sum up family characteristics that infer that parents are mainly to blame for how their kids turned out to be, but in general, they do tend to follow their tracks especially if the parent's behavior, may it be good or bad, is frequently conducted at the home, for instance, if the parent smoked, the child tends to be a smoker, if the parent uses drugs, the child will tend to use them also, if the parent consumes alcohol, that child will tend to drink or become a alcoholic, if the parent was a child abuser than that child will abuse their children as well and a parent, who shows low self-esteem, will have raise their child with the same affliction. Children especially at a very young age have the tendency of mimicking their parent's behaviors and are sensitive with the uncanny ability to distinguish between adults, who only talk a good game and those who play the game by the rules.
Credible parents inspire a child's confidence and build a positive legacy for them to inherit by introducing them to family traits that are worth believing in and give them the admiration to continue building for the next generation to become. Everything that surrounds a child's environment becomes a important factor on how they will become, for instance, a parent's happy married relationship gives that child a learning tool to build positive relationships between man and women, boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife where the term "love" has a true meaning and purpose for the benefit of our society as fellow human beings. One idea that comes to mind in regards of handling today's child's harmful behavior or negative attitude toward world views is to stop with the everyday chores of your personal life for just a moment and have that child learn from the ground up the importance of appropriate behavior with prerequisites containing self-respect, high self-esteem, healthy habits and most importantly the possible achievement of accomplishing their dreams and goals, but this difficult task could only be done by a committing parent, who has the time and energy to engineer a well-planned directive or strategy that consistently encourages these healthy behaviors.
Now I am very much aware that even if a parent takes all the right steps, it does not guarantee that that child will bloom to be a perfect angel for they do face other obstacles in life, for example, peer pressure by their personal friends, boss, girlfriend etc, that influences bad behavior, but than that's where the parent should play a positive role and intervene by giving them the special attention they need overcome by love, understanding and what a lot of parents overlook
acceptance because sometimes we don't get what we ask for. A child is not the only one who needs to learn and develop the concept behind human behavior. Cooperation needs to come from both sides of the relationship...Like Father Like Son...Like Mother Like Daughter...a nourishing tool that comes along with the family package!
"Heh..Heh...that's my girl!"-cbj